Friendship and love should be the safe regions where your unknown selves can come out and play. Instead of holding your friend or beloved limited within the neat cage of frightened identity, love should liberate both of you to celebrate the festival of complexity within you.
John O’Donohue writes extensively on what it means to be a friend – what it means to belong. Quoting Swiss writer Max Frisch describing the mystery of friendship, he writes:
It is remarkable that in relation to the one we love we are least able to declare how he is. We simply love him. This is exactly what love is. The wonder of love is that it holds us in the flow of that which is alive; it maintains us in the readiness to follow this person in all his possible unfolding. We know that every person feels transfigured and unfolded when we love him… we will never be finished with the one that we love as long as we love him and because we love him. (O’Donohue’s translation).
Source: Eternal Echoes by John O-Donohue
Isn’t it about time to tell your friends what they mean to you?
For more see: “Friendship“.