Childhood Interview: Shepherding a Child’s Heart

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Earlier this year I posted “Childhood Interview” as an expression of curiosity and guidance with your children. I wrote:

Since I had not had a chance to do this with either of my parents I was eager to start a conversation of things left unsaid, of topics not spoken.

Recently I re-read “Stand: A Call for the Endurance of the Saints” (essays edited by John Piper & Justin Taylor). In an interview at the end of the book Piper refers to the questions his friend Pastor Rick Gamache uses to draw out his child’s heart.  With a little editing here are some other questions you can ask your own children:

  • How are your devotions/quiet times; describe your devotional life?
  • What is God teaching you/saying to you?
  • In your own words, what is the gospel? Who is Jesus as you know Him?
  • Is there an area of your life or a sin that you need help to overcome?
  • Are you more aware of my encouragement or my criticism?
  • What do you think your Dad/Mom is most passionate about?
  • Do I act the same at church as I do when I am at home?
  • Are you aware of my love for you?
  • Is there any way I’ve sinned against/harmed you that I have not admitted/confessed and restored/repented?
  • What observations of me would you like to share?
  • How am I doing as your Dad/Mom?
  • How has Sunday school/sermons impacted you?
  • Does my relationship with Mom/Dad make you excited to be married?

“On top of this”, says Gamache, “I’m always inquiring about their relationships with their friends…”

The image above comes from “” – for more check out his post on “ways Dads can leave a legacy.”

As we enter the summer months while you will likely have more family time, why not take an opportunity to interview your children?

Let me know how it goes and let me know if you came up with some other/better questions.

Grace to you as you continue to relate to your children over the ages.

About R.H. (Rusty) Foerger

As I enter the third third of life, I am becoming aware of the role of elders today “to enlarge spiritual vision, being devoted to prayer, living in the face of death, as a living curriculum of the Christian life” (Dr. James M. Houston). I am a life long and life wide learner who seeks to: *decipher the enigma of our worth *rescue from the agony of prayerlessness *integrate spiritual friendship.
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